hmms.in the end, i din go NUS today. instead, i was in the library studying with my sis. manage dto complete what i planned to do. so it was kinda a relief. stopped at around 630pm and decided i should give myself a treat. it was so trying at around 4pm cos i just finished deciphering the numbers at one section and then i saw more things to decode.

anyhowss. instinctively, i went over to one of the shelves under 'Christianity', got myself afew books from there and sat on the some-what-quite-comfortable sofa.

haha. title reads 'Common Mistakes Singles Make' well well well. being very much a typical girl as i am, the title caught my eye. haha! yurh what. i'm a single also maa.

Here's a snippet of it:

'when a young man was ready to get married, and when there was a young woman to whom he was attracted, he would spend time with her and her family, at community and church events and in group settings, with the fully understood purpose of asking her at the appropriate time to be his wife. He wasnt experimenting to see if she was suitable. He likely knew her and her family ahead of time and had interacted with her in many ways in natural settings before he expressed his interest.

Neither was he out to make another acquisition or 'put another notch in his belt.' Nor was she trying to prove how many men she could attract. They both understood that a marriage decision was serious, and only until they were ready to make that kind of commitment did they pursue a relationship. Rarely did they spend time alone before engagement. In those days, this was known as 'courting', and though not perfect, it was much better to make a marriage decision than we do today.

Particularly, i like the sentence that says "Neither was he out to make another acquisition or 'put another notch in his belt.' Nor was she trying to prove how many men she could attract."

This is what i drew out from the term 'courting'. The person you're courting should be someone you:-
- you know rather well
- know of her/his parents and friends etc.
- express your interest to only when you're ready to commit into a life long relationship
- would like to build up and support (How much can i give? rather than how much can he/she can give?)
- rarely spend time alone with

rarely spend time alone with? it does makes sense.. in a way. since you will be spending the rest of your life with him/her alone after getting married, then why still spend so much time together before you get married? altho it is natural that couples in a r/s would like to spend time alone..yea. but i think the bottomline is not to neglect the people around you when u're in a r/s.

The idea presented in this book, is also along the lines of another book written by Joshua Harris' ..Courtship is definitely an obselete term in our society now. I guess (and i might be wrong) that those who have been attached / are attached can actually strike off the points listed below in your r/s that you're in or u've gone through. For example, how many of your gf / bf actually knew your parents when u were friends then? or most of you and your bf/gf time is spent in group settings?

Courtship is now replaced with 'Date-ship' (or whatever u call that) hmms. it's a different ball game for 'Dating'. It's like a choo-train of courtship. the procedures get haywired. You get what i mean. We jump right into it and outta it fast. It's thrilling, exciting, sometimes painful at the end and we get ourselves scarred and burnt. oh wells. some people are just unlucky to have to learn it the hard way. -shrugs- I'm in no way condemning 'dating' because i'm sure there are people who are living blissfully through the choo-train way. yeah.

I like the idea of courtship and i'm sure some of my female friends feel the same way too. Yeah, no doubt, i would like to have a companion. but at the same time, i guess God, putting me in the singles' club has made me depend on him even more and to grow closer to Him. To let me understand how much more things are there around and the areas in my life that i have to build up.

haha. the book wasnt too difficult to read. i finished it in 2 hours. but it got me to examine myself right now. MAYBE He planned for me to read this book, i dunno. -shrugs- cos i actually din wanna go meet my sis already. she said she was studying at the benches (it meant those wood piece protruding from wall, for people to sit one.) i was like.. dots. i'm studying measurements and i need alot of space to put the drawings all over the table.. oh wells. anyway, the book was just in time to save me from any embarassment (if there was potentially any). no need to go in depth into this. it's just me and God. haha.. Thank you Mr. Save-me-from-Embarassment aka Mr. God. I owe you one. erm. no. two.. hmm. three? four? infinity? haha. crazyy. uncountable one laa.

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I brought home two verses with me today.

A man finds joy in giving an apt reply— and how good is a timely word! - Proverbs 15:23

A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.
- Proverbs 17:27

once again, from my fave book in the bible.

prudence. is the key. hmms. something that i would like to work on. ((:

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oh. and why did i change my blog add? cos i thought sounds weird to me now. like i am secretly admiring someone then wanna know more about him. IN ANY CASE, DONT HAVE. haha.

so i decided to change to another one. INSPIRED (not 'copy') by my cute little piano student, kesley. the original one was 'easy peasy lemon squeezy' hahaaa. yeahh. so catchy right. hehehe. easy peasy orange squeezy. hahaha.

yeah yeah.